Chapter four titled Sex, Power, and Intimacy was an interesting chapter with a lot of interesting articles to go with it. I was especially interested in Bell Hooks article titled “Romance: Sweet Love” because I thought it brought up a lot of interesting points in what makes a successful relationship. I can’t say that I’ve ever really believed in love at first sight or anything. I consider myself fairly educated but my history in the topic of love sucks to say it bluntly.
I’m 30 and have only really been in 2 serious relationships since I was 17, which is my first mistake because I don’t have a lot of past relationships to compare a guy to. Which I have grown to wish I had done differently. I really think dating more people gives you more experience to base what you’re really looking for in a person on. Which is the part I lack. I have a really hard time being alone and therefore tend to stay in a relationship longer then I probably should even if I’m fairly sure it’s not going to last forever and I’m only avoiding the inevitable for as long as I can. I try to stick it out through the thick and thin although I’m not married and never have been. I’m not sure why I do this, I guess because I believe that men and women are quite different and I don’t see why I would want to start over when it always seems to go down the same path. We fall in love and everything’s great, then time put strains on the relationship, each of us change, and eventually what use to be great seems to grow bad and unhealthy for all involved.
Anyway if I’m ever in the market for a new relationship again, I think I’m going to take this authors advice and actually compare and contrast what I want with what he wants, I’m going to date more then one guy before settling down and use my intellect in picking the next person I want to be with. There’s going to have to be something more than good sex and lust to fall for or else it’s just not worth my time.
